Let's talk about Haters. They love to write on walls, position themselves in certain groups and subconsciously wants you to be a nobody through verbal sarcasm, period. Now are the glory days of Social Bigotry. Welcome.

Decline. Writings at the Toilet Door.

Is our society going into a decline? Have any of you walked around our city lately? Contrary to popular beliefs, rock & roll, free sex and skimpy clothing contribute NOTHING to social decline. Bigotry does. Sometimes I want to determine the number of bigots we have in Malaysia. Which could be quite substantial, I'm afraid. We have so many haters in our country that is pulling our society into further decline. Where does all these hate come from? I strongly believe it comes from our own inability to accept other people's rights to freedom and personal expression. Another reason is we are not a culture that supports free thinking and association, hence the lack of shining achievements internationally. Most of us are inhabited by our own prejudices in religion, race and culture, trapped in our own hardware mentality.. When the hardware is so strong, the software automatically declines and hatred began to fester - giving birth to hypocrisy and decline (social bigotry).

Decline. Room for rent advertisements -
all specify their own race preference.

Decline in Talent Industry?
So many of our best talents are thinking of ways to move out. Be it doctors, lawyers, scientists or even actors. Many feel to "make it", they simply have to move out from the country. But why? can't they just stay in Malaysia and make it? There must be a good reason for their move.

Decline in Work Motivation
Where rewards are scarce and unfair for works accomplished, motivation to work better gradually diminishes. I am sad that people without university degrees are forever bound by their lower positions. Why not a person who has the experience and skills not be on par with those degree holders? The hardware overrules the software part, unfortunately.

Decline in Quality of Life?
To be yourself. Personal expression without judgement from others. Freedom to love whomever without the boundaries set by religion, race and culture. A decent job with decent pay. Respect and love for each other. Able to grow old without the worries of health and money. To be single and married, as you choose, without pressure from society. Other social issues I've contemplated on:
* Emasculation of the Chinese Male in Media
* The Over Emphasis of Hardware over Software
* How My "Friend" Make Plus-sized Looks Bad
* City Folks' Sitting Culture (BM)
* How to Identify Monsters Anywhere
* Habits of Local Talent (BM)
* Lessons learned from "Friends"
* Malaysian "Mega-Structures" Hits & Misses
* Speaking Chinese Because I'm Chinese?


Decline in Social Integration
I began to understand why certain groups tend to mix only with their own kind - simply because it's safer and more comfortable. You don't risk being judged or ostracized when you act a bit "different". We know when being racial, each race tends to be proud of themselves, of their given rights. It's another kind of war, that does nothing to promote any social integration.

An ad that promotes bigotry thinking
subconsciously and racially?

Media - Powerful Integration & Hate Tool
That's where the local term comes in - "dengki", which is hatred or jealousy towards other people. I brought this up because I'm surprised that I have quite a number of Malay friends who recognise me from some commercials and TV dramas I've done. It's not that many titles, but still people recognise me. I am thankful for the recognition for that means my acting made an impression and impact, no matter how small. The other side of this coin is, I also have "haters" who dislikes me. For aspiring artistes, this is what you will experience. You can never expect everybody to like you.







Some people will hate your dressing. The way you walk. Write "hateful" comments on your profile. Think again, it is also a good thing, because that way, you can determine what the "haters" profiles are like. You actually learn more from haters than admirers. The other blessing is - it means we are all humans, including myself. Nobody's perfect and everyone has their weaknesses. Especially for actors, our "weaknesses" are more precious, if you know what they are. Hence, the ability to contemplate and review your own self is truly important. Below are the links to my own Personal Observation:
* Stuff to Cover Myself
* The Road Less Travelled
* The Foolishness of Jealousy
* The Foolishness of TV
* A Reflection of the World
* A General Theory of Love
* My First Time Cooking Using Electric (BM)
* Being Used as a Celebrity

Progress? Is the 70s more liberal, more progressive
 than we are now? An adult movie cinema in KL

Our weaknesses can be used for acting on screen. Again, the term weakness is just a term. It could be turn into a strength. For me, I have so many weaknesses, not even the Mount Everest can top the scale. But truly, I am humbled by my own weaknesses. I began to see the world as it is - a place full of insecure people. They're not all bad, it's just insecurity. So what must you do in front of insecure people? You can blend in with them and relate to their insecurities, only if they're not haters in the first place.

A Hater's Profile
Haters are a group that must divide the lines between you and me. They possess a kind of superiority over something they feel it's their greatest strength. In terms of physique, personally, I stay away from muscular guys. I don't like to look at them, or even be like them, for one, I feel vanity hampers the mind from growing. I am one who values thinking over muscle. Now back to haters, they have the inclination to separate others from themselves. It could be anyone - beautiful or ugly, muscular or chubby.


Could this be another branch of racism? Unfortunately, this is still rampant. 1Malaysia is a concept so many people can see through the holes. Haters made themselves feel they have a just cause to crush other people's ideals, thoughts and human rights. This is the war of the minds. It's no longer a bomb-and-bullets kind of war. But a war to take over your mind and put you in a certain category - so you will function as others seem fit. It is a war over control.

Decline in Sensational News?

Let's say if you're a guy who wants to wear shorts in the public, you may feel a bit shy because of your sex. Shorts are seldom worn in public for guys, because of the division of the sexes between male and female is so great. You have to wear the cargo pants and jeans or whatever that covers up till your ankles or knees. But shorts is a form of fashion. And fashion's primary function is to make the wearer feel comfortable. In our local weather when it's hot like hell, so wearing shorts is not permissible? I say, just wear it.

If a hater said he saw you walking wearing certain clothing he dislikes, I say continue to wear it publicly no matter what. If you succumb to their watchful scrutiny on you, then you're finished. You are no more respectful than an eunuch of old, where the sex is castrated. If a hater said he dislikes your acting in a certain movie, as in your real-life, I say, continue to do what you did proudly. Let nothing stop you. If you want to know, these haters are just your average Joe, and no one of great standing whatsoever. Secretly, they may be hating your guts. At least you have more guts than them. So what can you do to fight these "haters"?

1) Be who you want to be - Your right to Personal Expression
Hello? Do you still remember who you are deep inside? You are NOT what the local media says who you. You are NOT the brands you wear and bought. You are NOT what others say you are. Then who the hell are you? Only you can find that out. Socrates said "Know Thyself". The reason you're not knowing yourself now is because you are robbed of the opportunity to express your own personal expression. Our hardware system has managed to lock you down into a herd mentality of who you are. Take a look around and identify your own Personal Expression. Is there any? Take fashion shows/displays and all the events I've attended for example:
* Fire-y Dragon Displays
* Christmas 2011 Display
* MaSIF Fashion Review
* Spring/Summer Fashion Display @KLCC
* IFTC Students' Fashion Show @Sungei Wang
* Fashion Sales Preview Party

My lovely new batch of students  from all races

2) Start Small
Try to smile and stay positive within yourself first. Others can be negative. But you start small, by simply smiling to the person next to you first. Try to have a pleasant expression to others who are different from your profile. Say you are a Malay guy, try to smile with another person different from your own race.

3) Use Your Veto Power
If you see other haters saying degrading things about others or look unkindly on others who are "different" from them in terms of dressing or way of behaving, stand up and voice your disagreement. The least you can do is NOT condone to the haters' bigotry sentiment. Stand firm on your personal freedom (you still have it), use your right to uphold the personal freedom of others too. If you see an ad, brand or TV show that is promoting social bigotry, turn it off. If you have a neighbor who gives you the "you're thrash"-look, look and stay away from them. Action speaks louder than words.

4) Love More
Haters are the way they are because of their insecurities of themselves. They could be a victim of other haters in the group who pushes them to do so. If you're a hater and reading this, you can turn things around. Simply love yourself more. When you love yourself for who you are, then you will discover that you are just as "weak" as other people. Other people's own "shortcomings" are more understandable because you are not perfect yourself. Then why waste energy on hate? Love conserves energy and multiplies more energy. Hate others, and you actually end up hating yourself more.

5) Think Big
A lot of us are troubled by our own family problems. By nagging relatives. By pestering mothers or fathers who demands us to give allowances. Why the trouble? The solution is to think big. Think beyond providing just your immediate family and relatives. You are part of a larger society. Speak out, and articulate your feelings. Bring them out to the light, and see how bias or fair you sounds. You could be a Hater yourself.

6) Get Re-Educated
There's one incident I encountered at KL Sentral recently where a properly dressed office clothed guy (quite a tall Indian man with a bulging tummy, in his 40s) followed me around quite strangely. He finally stopped me to enquire something about my bag, but suddenly he turned and hurled all sorts of curses and accusations at me on the spot in front of other passers-by! I should have turned him away when he first approached me, but due to my open nature, I gave him my attention which turns out to be a mistake. After he went amok (he's probably have mental problems), I quickly ran way. This is a true story, and another sign of how our society is declining badly. That man looked like a professional and well-educated from his clothes, but what made him turned so ugly? He probably thought he has achieved something already in his life, and people around him owed him something. Or maybe there's too much stress in life and work, hence he gave up learning. But life never stops after you graduated and got a job. It's a continuous learning process. A good Communications Strategy Coach will do you even more good like preparing you for (sample tips here):
* How to Excel in Reality TV Shows,
* How to Make Your Casting Enjoyable
* How to Handle Rude Casting Agent
* Exude Your Inner Star Quality.
* Points to Consider before you strive for Fame
* The Art of Networking
* How to Handle the Media
* What to do during Pre-Production
* What to do during Production
* How Should an Artiste Travel for Work
* The Value of Preparation
* How to Survive the Festive Cheer


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