Saturday, November 13, 2010

If only more mothers breastfeed their babies and men wear shorts in public - the 3-step guide in making ALL your dreams come TRUE.

Breastfeeding diagram


"You're hot and you're cold"
Malaysians love to cut corners. In shopping, we want things to be cheap. In business, we love to cut the amount stated in invoices by complaining the product isn't good. But we demand more than good quality. We want the best at cheap prices. Hence, we are torn in half always. We want unity in our country, but think in terms of race. We want equality, but our minds are so divided and lacking in clarity. We speak about freedom, but despised others for being themselves. So what's happening here?

More of this please...
In the train one day, I saw the most beautiful act of love. A malay woman in tudung was openly breastfeeding her little toddler. It's certainly not a normal sight, seeing Malay women are very covered with their aurat, but her act at that moment truly caught my eye for its authenticity and total lack of pretense. She was dark skinned, a very kampung feel about her presence and wears a tudung. Yet, she was so unabashed by her act and unperturbed by people around her when attending the nutritional need of her child. Her husband was sitting right next to her. She was truly a beauty. I even almost caught the sight of her nipple when she finished breastfeeding inside the bright gleaming lights of the train.

Connecting means we are more similar than different.
Suddenly, I saw the connection. Why are we happy when we get to do the things we love? Why do we feel our best when we listen to our favourite song or watch our favourite movie? The reason is simple really: freedom. The act of breastfeeding in public shows the woman's liberation in expressing her love. She's not shy and protective over covering her breast from everyone around her. In her mind, she's free and this act doesn't bother her at all. When you attend a session like our Artiste Training Course, you feel free to be able to interact with other people and with a coach because it opens up our senses and mind to seek the connection, that spark of interaction that ignites our mind and thinking in newer heights.

Aren't I lovely?
Resolution should be strong and inspiring.
Then, a resolution comes to my mind after observing her. She was sitting right opposite me. I was wearing very casually: a pair of shorts and t-shirt. I always feel it's everyone's right to wear anything they feel most comfortable in. Some people look at me, but I've learned to look right ahead and higher with confidence and respect to their lack of understanding. My resolution was very clear. Freedom needs to be realised - inside out. You cannot keep your resolution, no matter what they are inside yourself. To be complete, one needs to practice and act out one's resolution so as to feel the actuality and embodies the strength you've thought inside. When it's out there, then it becomes real. Practice is key in our Artiste Training Course, where almost all my students felt they "did it" and come out more confident to face the world.

So good, I could dance all I want!
Like any profession you choose to take, you need to set resolutions first. That firm conviction that you want to do something about it instead of just sitting there motionless. Same as acting and singing and everything an aspiring artiste dreams to become. You need to transform your whimsical dream of becoming an artiste or any profession there is, into a strong, purposeful and detailed resolution, in order for you to actualise it. That's how dreams become true. I always coach my students through this simple process: 1) Find the CONNECTION, 2) create RESOLUTION and finally 3) feel the END RESULT. The end result should be a positive one which gives you some form of catharsis. It should go beyond just your feelings. It should inspires you to do more and influences others too in a magnificent way.

This 3-step process can be applied to help you bridge your mind to your actions. When you think of something, automatically this 3-step process can direct you to action. Isn't it wonderful when someone actually says what he will do? It also helps you to be honest and forward with your communication to people around you, like your colleagues and even managers. All in all, to truly realise your dreams and goals, following these steps aren't enough to keep you consistent or even persistent enough in achieving it. The key is having an Artiste Training coach present in making sure you keep to your steps and stay in balance (not only for aspiring artistes, other industry professionals do too). A coach seeks to hold up a mirror and reflect this 3-step process. Go ahead and try this technique. Perhaps you may even go public and change your world.